I Know How These Things Go - Live at The Bitter End, New York, NY - 01/16/24 (Live) Lyrics

Saturday night and we're wading through crowds in Times Square

While I'm screaming bloody murder waving my hands in the air

And as I glance over I still find you defending your husband's goodness over my life

And for the first time I refuse to resolve this fight

I believe in redemption and I believe in the divine

And I believe real change happens slowly over time

But I'm sick of having to sit and wait while my safety is at stake

While you try and convince me the way I behave is not okay

And I know how these things go

We choose comfort over the values we say we hold

And I'm waiting til' we wake up and find we've all got that same darkness inside

And I want you to come back when you're ready to take my side

I look back and watch a child hear a racist comment go by

While something inside of her dies to fit amongst such lies

Cause when she chokes up to say "Mom, this really doesn't feel okay"

She hears "it's not that simple when people's hearts are in the right place"

And I know how these things go

We choose fitting in over facing fears that we hold

But I'm waiting til' we wake up and find accountability unlocks our shared goodness inside

As long as we just show up and fail and try

I know silence, complicity and contradiction are entwined

And I know the power within me is not the same as ours combined

And I know when we stand in truth it's only abuse we refuse to choose

And I dream of the day we set down these privileges we're scared to lose

And I know how these things go

We choose judgment over the love we say we hold

And I know at the end of the day we're not bound by shame but are trapped in grace

And I want us to trust that freedom doesn't just happen one way