Singleness Lyrics

When the ball drops at midnight and there is no one to kiss

When there are no fireworks from someone's fingertips

When you are no closer to a diamond on that fourth finger

When it seems every singer

On the radio

In every song

Wants to remind you

They got a boo

And you just got you

When another year passes and you are still single

Know that you still have value

That solitude doesn't have to be a gray comforter of stone

Swallowing you whole

Singleness is not a badge of brokenness

You are not a broken mess

They are not Coltrane ing past you

No Giant Steps

With you somewhere left

You are not less

There will be nothing he or she or they

Can say that can match you

Loving the echo of your own name

No need for a thing outside of your body to make you complete

Not when you are a house well stocked

With consciousness

With purpose and resilience

You may not have a significant other

But you are still significant

And there is no other you

Silly

Awkward

You

Don't go missing the point of life

Which is to enjoy all that you are given

And enjoy living

Realizing your heart

Is one skip away from death

It takes nothing for the breath in your body

To be stuck in your chest

One step from an accident

One traffic light stop

Ignorant cop

One wrong move from being left motionless

And you here

Worried about the person that doesn't yet exist

That you can't be sure will be a gift

Versus another headache to add to your list

Trust that the pressure

Of being solely responsible for someone else being happy

Has destroyed many a relationship

Trust that the pressure

Of being solely responsible for someone else being happy

Has destroyed many a relationship

And contrary to social media's portraits

The unions you see are far from perfect

Dysfunction is easily cropped out

And trifling people can be fixed with filters

And IG be telling stories

More like fables

More like lies

And you swear

You swear joy can only come by finding a partner

Ignoring the amazing person that's been within you all this time

The Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing

But never forget

You already were the good thing

Long before they found you

Already worth worshipping

You choose to ignore the congregation

Of friends and family at your altar

All because one person didn't put you on a pedestal

See, something magic happens

When you close storybook fables

And find your own happily ever after

Beneath your own feet

So if someone on a date asks you why you are single

Tell them

It's because you go on dates with people who ask you

Stupid questions like Why are you single

And that you aren't basing your partner

On whether they can make your toes tingle

Or stomach parasail

Just because you're of a certain age

Doesn't mean someone

Can get you at a discount or on sale

That your world isn't dictated by what you have

But by enjoying its design

And when they put a shot clock on your uterus

Let them know that games have been won in overtime

And if you never find your Soulmate

Your soul may discover

There's a bigger reason your soul was made

And I don't say this will always be easy to do

Our Creator made us to love

I know there will be nights

Where you cannot hold back tears

Anymore than a bedroom door can hold back a flood

But can't no one give you the joy that never was

Try your best to tell yourself

Even if sometimes it feels like a lie

That someone out there wishes

For your problems

Don't let your blessings pass you by

Make sure you are your own judge and jury

Because being single is not

A crime