For My Brothers Who Considered Children When Their Fathers Weren't Enuf Lyrics

On behalf of the brothers

On behalf of their lovers

If daddy wasn't there for you

He wasn't there for your mother

Daddy was an absent father

You don't have to be another

If you don't love her

Go ahead and use a rubber

We be bashing our lookalikes

But the stories look just alike

Some men prayed for kids

But never prayed for a wife

Now playing games with life

With women it's cat and mouse

Wanna be man of the house

But didn't prepare for a spouse

We pictured ourselves as father figures

But placed no partner in the frame

So now our women don't feel loved

And we're the ones to blame

Focused on missing fathers

Didn't notice mama lost hope

As the son grows older

The mom turns to him to cope

Mothers play the role of fathers

And sons play the role of husbands

Who show love to their mothers

But never show love to their lovers

When the man ain't in the home

The kids suffer but mom suffers too

She ain't just a mother

She's a woman too

She got financial mental

Emotional needs too

Daddy stepped out on both of ya'll

He didn't just step out on you

We reverse the curse of missing fathers

Not simply by planting new seeds

We reverse the curse

By giving our women what they need

We owe it to our mothers

To treat the next woman right

Whether she wants to be called life partner

Or she wants to be called a wife

The gift of parenthood so sacred

But we minimize it to BD or BM

No longterm goals in mind

When we sliding in the DMs

Escape through one another in the PM

Escape through rooms before its sunny

Minimize parenthood

To sending child support money

Cut buddies turn to coparents

In the blink of an eye

Think we can't afford therapy

So we laying thigh to thigh

Defensive and dismissive

So we can't see eye to eye

Never loved with intention

We thought it would come bye and bye

But a baby's on the way

And now ya'll tryna try

To see if there's a connection

For the sake of this new life

It's true she was your type

And ya'll had kicked it for a while

Netflix and chill

Turned into shopping for your child

When you analyzed your dad

You always said you would do better

But you didn't use protection

And ya'll ain't officially together

Cycles repeat in our communities

When we don't move with purpose

To recreate the hurt within us

Is a major disservice

Is nine months enough time

To dig into all your childhood trauma?

What it was like with her dad?

What it was like for your mama?

This poem is for the brothers

On behalf of their lovers

If you don't love her

Go ahead and use a rubber

Before we build the toy house

Let's build a real home

This is how two halves

Work to become whole

And reciprocate love

Can we grow into the men

That our mothers dreamed of?

Show loyalty to our partners

Like we show love to the block

Give up habits that destroy the family

Buy our women will real rocks

Then invest in stocks together

Pay the mortgage together

Open up with no defenses

Then meditate together

Build a true foundation

So the babies have a solid start

Release our old pain

So we don't have such heavy hearts

Imagine what your mother needed

When you were growing up

For my brothers who considered children

When their fathers weren't enuf